Online Dating Is A Dead End!
Seven reasons why you're wasting your time, your money and your life -- if you really think you're going to find a "good man" on a dating site...
1. Research says you won't!
Pew Research conducted a study that came to a very interesting conclusion: Only 3% of internet users who found someone online (dating services, chat rooms, forums, etc.) had a long-term relationship with that person.
This translates to a 97% failure rate if you're looking for a serious relationship online.
2. Your real world dating skills go downhill in a hurry.
Being comfortable with yourself in situations where you're attempting to create a relationship with someone requires some interpersonal skills -- and those skills are always undergoing refinement as your experience broadens.
Online the most important skill is writing a sentence.
Personal contact -- eyeball to eyeball -- is and continues to be the single most effective way of meeting and getting to know another person. There is no substitute for this basic human interaction -- especially when this pairing process between a man and a woman has its basis in our DNA.
3. You're wasting time!
Every hour you sit in front of your computer is time lost you can invest directly into real-world activities -- that may result in meeting the "man of your dreams".
Actually, 97% of all long-term relationships -- including marriage -- are between men and women who met each other for the first time -- IN PERSON!
4. Deception is rampant online!
The New York Times recently picked up and ran a story from the Wall Street Journal exposing the growing trend of outright "profile theft"! Copying and pasting entire profiles and presenting them as being who the potential date really is!
Since the beginning of the internet too many people have treated this new medium as a "fantasy land" where anything goes -- especially the truth -- out the window!
It's hard enough to get to know someone in real life. That great guy you've been communicating to on the internet could married with kids -- and older than your father or even a woman. You have no way of knowing. There is no law protecting you from "profile fraud".
5. It's cheap -- only a monthly fee! NOT REALLY
Many people sign up on several online dating sites. So the fees do add up. There is a potentially substantial cost that you don't always consider: The cost of your time and money on long distance phone calls and the expense of a possible trip to meet him in person -- and finding out he's nothing like you thought he was going to be when finally put your eyeballs on him.
Long distance relationships are seldom successful anyway -- check the statistics. The point is you could be spending a lot more money than you think and only get disappointment for your investment.
6. Online dating can become addictive!
When online dating ceases to be entertainment and turns into your after work lifestyle -- you're in big trouble. You've become addicted to the vicarious thrill of dating -- when in truth, nothing of any real consequence is taking place.
You find yourself waiting for the next email or phone call, but nothing ever comes of it because so many variables are already working against you. The greatest danger is your own denial that you've wasted weeks and months going through the motions of dating -- when you really haven't done anything more than sit in front of your computer -- write a few emails or talk long distance on the phone.
Dating is a human to human -- in person -- experience!
7. Online dating's dirty little secret:
No matter how much you communicate with him -- the first time you meet him it's still going to be a blind date! That's right -- the most uncomfortable of all dating situations is exactly what you finally get when it's all said and done.
The blind date satisfaction index has always been at the bottom of most single women's -- "this is not fun" list. It's not fun in real life meeting someone you've never met before on a first date.
It becomes a terrible disappointment when you're emotionally invested in the false reality of the online dating experience -- only to find out when you finally meet him in person -- that little if anything about him fits the picture you had of him in your imagination or the profile he had up on his web page.
It's a big business and it's growing
Online dating is a 675 million dollar a year industry and it's growing every year. The reason it continues to grow is as old as the human race: Men and women want each other's company. The need to be connected and experience love is a powerful part of the human experience.
As long as you have fun with online dating -- because you keep it in the realm of entertainment -- you may have a few hours of enjoyment with it. If however, you really think you're going to find the man of your dreams through a commercial online dating site -- it's probably not going to happen.
If you "lose yourself" in the online dating process -- you're depriving yourself of the opportunity of meeting a potential Mr. Right -- A real Mr. Right, who may be living in your community and is "out there" looking for you. Chances are he's not using an online dating site -- a serious man looking for a serious long-term relationship isn't going to waste his time playing with his computer.
He's going to be spending his time getting ready to go to a dinner party, night club or other social gathering. Where will you be tonight?
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